The weekend has the part of Rafe men ask me about most, and the weekly read.
Day 6Sat, a 7-minute lesson
The lesson on closeness in bed
No exercise today. A short read on how couples set themselves up for intimacy when knees, backs and long weeks have a say. Each idea is named and explained by comfort, closeness and how unhurried it is. I read it on the sofa and, later, I told my wife what I'd been doing all week.
The spoonBoth lying on your sides, facing the same way, close from shoulders to knees. Easy on the back, slow, and plenty of time to talk.
Easy on the backVery closeSlow
The headboardYou sit back against stacked pillows, she settles in front of you, face to face. Eye contact, arms around each other, no rush.
Supported backFace to faceUnhurried
The pillowShe lies back with a firm pillow placed for her comfort, you kneel close on a soft surface. The lesson covers where the pillow goes and why knees need padding past 40.
Knee-friendlyEye contactYour choice of tempo
Day 7Sun, 4 minutes
The weekly read
The last task of the week is to sit with my own numbers. Minutes per day, rounds I kept count of, the night log, and one question I answer from 1 to 5: how sure of myself did I feel with her this week? Nobody grades it. I read the pattern and decide for myself what week two looks like.
9:15Rafe
Week 1, my read
7 of 7 tasks
MTWTFSS
Minutes45
Night log, average2
Sure of myself, 1–53